Is he a Dominant or just a Dick?

So you met this dreamy Dominant that has swept you off your feet and you are a smitten kitten, right? Well before you go any further you should ask yourself some questions about his personality and behavior. First let’s define what a Dominant is, a dominant is the person in control of a BDSM relationship. It is extremely important to note that the dominant partner and the submissive partner have consensual guide lines over what the dominant has control and authority over. The submissive and dominant negotiate how the relationship is structured and the expectations upon each party. The dominant must have explicit consent before engaging in any activity with the submissive, including negotiating scenes, rules, protocols, and rituals.

A dominate should not

Make you cry

Make you do anything not negotiated

Make you obey ever order when it was not discussed

Only use you for sexual activities

Not offer aftercare

Not communicate

Not care about your wants and needs

Any forms of abuse

Ignore you

Take away comfort items

Isolate you

If they check any of the what a dominate should not be boxes he’s probably just a dick…. Sorry about that. It’s hard to find a good dominant that will have your best interest in mind, but trust me…. He is worth the wait.

-kinky desert rose